A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove...but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child. --Forest E. Witcraft

Thursday, November 17, 2011


Lil Sis was moved to Sweets' dad this week after fourteen months.  He barely manages with Sweets, and yet he now has a six year old to care for as well.  Today was her first day in kindergarten at Sweets' school  Apparently, all went well. 

He is jumping through all the hoops right now.  That is good.  The question is how long can he keep it up?

The girls are enjoying each other, but I'm very skeptical that this is truly a honeymoon period.  Usually when they play together for more than a couple of hours, they start fighting.  Maybe the dependence upon each other will cause them to get along better.

The girls' maternal relatives who have been caring for Lil Sis are beside themselves.  They can't understand how CPS has painted them the bad guys and moved Lil Sis just like they did Sweets.  It is such an iffy situation.  It is definitely not in the girls' best interests, but that doesn't matter when it is reunification with a parent.  All that matters is whether the parent is minimally (and I mean MINIMALLY) adequate.

Sweets has been telling me that her dad keeps saying once Lil Sis moves in, she won't be able to come to my house anymore.  Last night her dad said Sweets was going to stay with him this weekend.  I reminded him that she has a major choir rehearsal on Saturday along with birthday plans.  The choir is several miles away, and I know he doesn't want to get up Saturday morning.  We had also jointly agreed to have her party at a pizza place near his house on Sunday so all her cousins could come (I'm paying).  He gave in, but said she can't come next weekend, which just happens to be Thanksgiving. 

I'm trying to deal with this one day at a time.  We'll see how he is handling parenting both girls after a week.  My family is getting together next Sunday instead of Thursday, so my hope is that he will at least let her come Saturday night and Sunday after spending Thursday through Saturday at home.

I just keep praying...

1 comment:

  1. ugghh that makes me sick. he wants sweets there to take care of the sister doesn't he? :(

    you may need to see if you can fit one more in your van when you are going to get sweets, if you take both of them maybe he would be glad for the break. oh those poor kids...and relatives too