I picked up Sweets the afternoon of her last day of school on Wed, June 1st. I told her dad to call me when he wanted her to come home to his house and reminded him that he could call to talk to her anytime.
On Sat, June 4th, I forced Sweets to call him and tell him she is having fun and what she is doing. She reluctantly complied, worried he would tell her to come home. He didn't and I didn't talk to him.
On Tues, June 7th, he called to talk to her. Sweets said he told her to come home the next day. When he talked to me, he said to bring her home on Saturday. I told him Sweets had a dive competition Sat morning and that I would call him when it was over to figure out what time to bring her home. He said about 3pm but agreed that I would call.
On Sat, June 11th, I tried calling him but his phone was not functioning. I tried a couple more times - same result. Finally, he called me from another number about 4:20pm. I asked about his phone; he has to pay for it this week. He suggested Sweets stay until Tuesday, and I said that was totally fine with me. I told him he had to call me Monday night to setup a time since his phone was not working.
He called a little while ago tonight and said maybe Sweets could stay until Friday, June 17th. Again, I said that was fine, but asked if I could bring her home on Saturday instead of Friday since we are already planning to attend a birthday party for one of Sweets' cousins on Saturday evening near his house. I explained I really didn't want to drive all the way over there on Friday and again on Saturday (80 miles RT). I suggested Sweets could stay with him through Sunday since it is Father's Day, and I would pick her up next Monday evening after my law class, since I'll already be halfway there. He said that was fine.
I also asked if she could then stay through the following weekend, because her next dive meet is that Sunday, halfway between our houses. He said yes, and that he would come. Hate to say it, but I will believe it when I see it. It would be very nice for her if he does!
So, Sweets has now been here two weeks and counting. I am thrilled, and she is ecstatic!
Monday, June 13, 2011
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Saturday, June 11, 2011
First Dive Meet
This morning was the first dive meet for Sweets and Buddy. They both did very well.
Buddy's last dive was a front flip. Unfortunately, his coach was on the girls' side and another coach told Buddy to do his approach. So he slowly did Step, Step, Hop and attempted his flip, landing on his back (OUCH!) because he didn't jump high enough. Buddy naturally does the correct approach, but we call it "run and jump". When his coach tells him that, he does fine, but when he thinks about his approach he can't do it quickly. Afterwards, I tried to explain to him that his "run and jump" is HIS approach and he needs to do it.
Both kids did awesome for their first ever competition. They seemed to like it and are willing to do it again. This pool did not have a high board so it will be interesting when we get to a pool that does!
Buddy's very first dive - what confidence!
Unfortunately I missed Sweets' first dive - BAD mom.
Buddy's back jump - nice and straight!
Sweets' back jump - her second dive.
Buddy's front dive - love those toes!
Sweets' front dive - nice legs together!
Both kids did awesome for their first ever competition. They seemed to like it and are willing to do it again. This pool did not have a high board so it will be interesting when we get to a pool that does!
Friday, June 10, 2011
Foster Friday Panelist
I have been invited to be a guest panelist on Tammy's blog I Must Be Trippin' for Foster Friday. Today's topic is What They Didn't Tell Me - What I Wish I'd Known. The first occurrence of Foster Friday was two weeks ago with the Panel Introduction.
The items I wrote about today:
The items I wrote about today:
- Babysitting Feeling
- Attorneys / GALs
- ICWA
- Child Welfare System
Monday, June 6, 2011
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Speech Evaluation
BB's speech evaluation was this afternoon. The therapist watched him play in the waiting room while I filled out paperwork. She suggested he also be evaluated for OT based on some of what she saw, especially since we had to drive almost 35 miles to get there.
The evaluation lasted over an hour. Two of them rushed a little, trying to do both evals within a single time slot. They indicated that he comfortably has the capabilitites of a 7-9 month old, with some of the skills of a 9-12 month old - definitely less than where a 14 month old should be. Their recommendation is that he receive both OT and speech twice a week. They are submitting all the paperwork to get therapy approved.
I guess I didn't think BB was that far behind except in speech, but knowing how much OT helped Buddy when he was younger, I'm all for getting therapy early and hopefully completing it sooner rather than later.
The hearing evaluation is next week. Let's hope for no more surprises.
The evaluation lasted over an hour. Two of them rushed a little, trying to do both evals within a single time slot. They indicated that he comfortably has the capabilitites of a 7-9 month old, with some of the skills of a 9-12 month old - definitely less than where a 14 month old should be. Their recommendation is that he receive both OT and speech twice a week. They are submitting all the paperwork to get therapy approved.
I guess I didn't think BB was that far behind except in speech, but knowing how much OT helped Buddy when he was younger, I'm all for getting therapy early and hopefully completing it sooner rather than later.
The hearing evaluation is next week. Let's hope for no more surprises.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
School's Out Again!
Today was the last day of school for Sweets. She had a successful year and is on to fourth grade. Wow!
Sweets called me this afternoon, hoping I would pick her up. I told her she must ask her dad and call me back. Her plan has been to come back to my house tonight since we got home from vacation. I asked her dad about it yesterday, but he said not until Friday (but I'm not sure he totally understood the question - in case I haven't mentioned, English is his second language, barely).
Anyway, Sweets called me back five minutes later and practically yelled, "Guess what he said!" I told her I guessed yes, since she sounded happy. She told me he had said yes that I could pick her up NOW.
So I went and picked her up. Five minutes into the 40 mile drive home, she threw a fit when I asked a multiplication problem she couldn't answer, after getting several correct. All h*** broke loose! She said she wanted to go back to her dad's, she hated me, she never wanted to come to my house again, and plenty more. I simply said it was too late. She was stuck with me and I wasn't turning around. I told her I didn't like the disrespect and to be careful what she wished for, that the wrong person might hear some day and she might get it.
I am so tired of this roller coaster. She is happy and then mad. She is sweet and then belligerent. She is hugging and then hitting.
Finally after getting home, I figured out that she was worried and dwelling on when she had to go back to her dad's again. I told her that I didn't set a day with him this time. As far as I was concerned, she could stay all summer. I had told her dad to call me when he wanted her to come home. We'll see how that goes.
Oh, life would be so much simpler if she could just stay with me!
Sweets called me this afternoon, hoping I would pick her up. I told her she must ask her dad and call me back. Her plan has been to come back to my house tonight since we got home from vacation. I asked her dad about it yesterday, but he said not until Friday (but I'm not sure he totally understood the question - in case I haven't mentioned, English is his second language, barely).
Anyway, Sweets called me back five minutes later and practically yelled, "Guess what he said!" I told her I guessed yes, since she sounded happy. She told me he had said yes that I could pick her up NOW.
So I went and picked her up. Five minutes into the 40 mile drive home, she threw a fit when I asked a multiplication problem she couldn't answer, after getting several correct. All h*** broke loose! She said she wanted to go back to her dad's, she hated me, she never wanted to come to my house again, and plenty more. I simply said it was too late. She was stuck with me and I wasn't turning around. I told her I didn't like the disrespect and to be careful what she wished for, that the wrong person might hear some day and she might get it.
I am so tired of this roller coaster. She is happy and then mad. She is sweet and then belligerent. She is hugging and then hitting.
Finally after getting home, I figured out that she was worried and dwelling on when she had to go back to her dad's again. I told her that I didn't set a day with him this time. As far as I was concerned, she could stay all summer. I had told her dad to call me when he wanted her to come home. We'll see how that goes.
Oh, life would be so much simpler if she could just stay with me!
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